Close_Relationships_Sometimes_Mask

Poor Communication After reading the above article, I felt as though when the wife said to her husband “It’s getting hot in here” I thought she was letting him know that she wanted to be intimate with her husband. I know that if I were married and wanted to say this to my husband, he definitely would have started taken his clothes off. In the article, Professor Boaz Keysar said “People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers” (Keysar 2011), I find this to be true. There are some things that I would tell my friends before I tell a complete stranger. Although the person maybe an outsider looking in, I feel that by me bringing out my personal thoughts and emotions my friend will have a better observation and some much needed advice rather than someone who does not know me or the situation that I was going through at the time. I have had several altercations where communication was a very big problem. There was an incident where my boyfriend and I had a failure to communicate episode. It was July 6th (my birthday) I told my boyfriend that I was going to the store and would be back soon. One thing that my boyfriend knows is, when I go to the store for example Wal-Mart, I will stay merely four or more hours which only depends on if I see they have sales on things that I may need or can use around the house. When I arrived home from the store my boyfriend he was very upset and began to ask a series of questions. It does not take you four hours to pick up a few items, where were you' Why did you not pick up your phone when I called you' Did you meet someone while you were parading in the store you claimed you were going too' Are you cheating on me' I could see the vein visibly pop out the middle of his forehead. All I could do was laugh. Laughing was not making the vein go away. The more I laughed the more redder he became and the more questions he asked. I immediately became serious and try to answer his million-and-one questions. I explained to him that yes I did tell you that I was going to the store, but I never told you when I was coming back, what store I was going to or what was I going to get. I left my parent’s home when I was 14 years old. I do not need to be asked so many questions as if you are my parent”. After he calmed down and the original color came back to his face, my boyfriend then apologized for over reacting and maybe it was just a failure of communication we had at the time. Because he thought I wanted to get a few items and maybe next time I want to leave the house without my phone, I should think twice. One thing that I have learned in this situation is I need to communicate better with people especially with loved ones. I know my boyfriend loves me and wants to make sure that my kids and I are ok. The way that I can make sure that this kind of miscommunication does not happen in the near future is to remember to carry my cellphone with me at all times just in case something goes on at home or if I need help. Keirsey said that “One way of building acceptance of yourself is to look at how you interpret your own behavior and how realistic you are in appraising your abilities and behavior (Keirsey, 2010). This part had me realize that if I look at myself and realize that there are people who are worried about me and by me being selfish and not communicating with them is something I really need to work on to better myself and have it reflect on my children because they learn from me. If time this situation happens again, I would repeat the previous conversation with that making sure they are aware of my whereabouts and what time to expect me. With this being said I feel this will help with my communicating with people and help my relationship with others as well. References (Close relationships sometimes mask poor communication. (2011, January). U.S. News & World Report, 2011) Sole, K. (2011).Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. (https://content.ashford.edu)